Christianity, General, Religion

Practice Love.

For some reason, the past several years has seen us through the deaths of many celebrities. We’ve lost people like Heath Ledger, Whitney Houston, Paul Walker, James Brown,  and Amy Winehouse, – just to name a few. We’ve also lost a few less popular “celebrities” (in the sense that they are well-known), like Osama Bin Laden and Muammar Gaddafi.

In general, people mourn the deaths of the celebrities that were well-liked, and rejoice over the deaths of those public figures that were disliked or even hated. This past week, we lost another unpopular celebrity – Fred Phelps of the Westboro Baptist Church. He and his church members are infamous for their messages of hatred, their picketing of funerals, and their general disrespect for the human experience.

Although I have never agreed with nor liked the stance of the Westboro Baptist Church, I have to admit that I felt a heaviness about the death of Mr. Phelps and a deep sadness about some of the disparaging comments made about him that I’ve read online.

As a believer in Christ,  I am called to love others no matter what I think their shortcomings are. In fact, Jesus tells us that it is easy to love those who are good to us and who love us back, but the real challenge is loving those we dislike. Although Mr. Phelps and I are vastly different in our ideas of God and of spirituality, I know that I am still called to love him and the members of his church.

He is still someone’s father, someone’s friend, someone’s husband, someone’s son, someone’s grandfather – his life is still God-given and miraculous. How dare we cheapen it by rejoicing over his death?

Many people want to see change in this world, and think that by losing the less favorable members of society our world will become a better place. But that’s not true.

Our world becomes a better place when we practice love, in spite of whatever others practice.

“And now these three things remain; faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.”  -1 Corinthians 13:13


Keep On Keepin’ On.


Today, I went to my first fertility testing appointment! We went in for a consultation back in January, and my husband tested in February – everything is fine with him – which means the ball is in my court! I took a blood test, and I’ll get the results back in a few days.

This cycle makes one year and a half for my husband and I on this journey of trying to get pregnant, and although I was hesitant at first, I think it will be nice to have some medical intervention! In the meantime, I found these entertaining (and true!) little quips about the things No One Told You about TTC (trying to conceive). You can read the entire list on the Two Week Wait website, which I’ve linked above. In addition, I put together a paraphrased list of  my favorites!

What no one ever told you about trying to conceive…

1.  That infertility is more common than you think.

2. That living your life in two-week increments would be the norm.

3. That your sex life would start to resemble a science experiment.

4. That you have no control over some of the goals you set.

5. That you will learn to speak in code (CM, BBT, EWCM, POAS, BFP/BFN, etc)

6. That there is nothing to aid conception in the water at work, despite what some may say.

7. That getting pregnant isn’t as easy as you were lead to believe in high school.

8. That you will stop fantasizing about having a baby, because it will stop making you happy.

9. That a pregnancy doesn’t always equal a baby.

10. That it doesn’t get easier, each cycle is harder than the last.

11. That this will be one of the hardest things you will ever have to go through.

I often wonder what I can do, if anything, to be an encouragement to other women who are living with infertility? I don’t think there is nearly as much open discussion about the issue as there should be. I’m not saying we should all post “I’m infertile!” on our Facebook statuses or anything, but I also don’t think we should be ashamed to admit it’s something that is happening. I don’t know anyone else in real life who has dealt with infertility. That’s probably not because those people don’t exist, but because they don’t talk about it.

On the bright side – every unsuccessful cycle is just one cycle closer to starting your own family! So, as some of the older generations of my family and community would say:

“Baby, you jus’ gotta keep on keepin’ on!”